With political unrest and opinions from all sides of our current situation, it’s hard to put into words the underlying message of what’s really going on. And from there, it’s not exactly clear what to do from where I stand.
Out of fear, it seems that we lash out. Fear of change, fear of losing what we’ve worked so hard for, fear of being wrong. So we push and battle all opposing thought forms until we ourselves become monsters in this story, unable to see anything but our own biased opinions. We point fingers at each other without first acknowledging that another’s opinion, though opposite to ours, may also be well thought out and valid.
Different does not mean wrong, different does not mean evil, different is simply one form of diversity. If not for differences, how would we learn? If not for diversity, how would we expand our minds to see different perspectives of the same situation? And isn’t it strange that while we fight for diversity, we inadvertently shun those for thinking the way they already do? Why do we shame difference instead of effectively integrating a new perspective into our own?
I think it’s important that we resist the act of putting each other down for thinking the way we all uniquely do, and instead to seek a level of understanding & compromise. I think that many arguments are fear-based and come from a “scarcity mindset”. When thinking this way, we believe that the abundance of “others” has the ability to take away from our own. That’s not possible, I believe that when one group prospers surrounding groups prosper as well. If prosperity is not evident, then maybe it’s because people have been too busy tearing each other down. Together, we collectively create an overall win or lose situation, and if we stay divided then we remain in limbo between winning and losing. We can only succeed if the overall collective is united.
Discussions don’t need to lead to arguments. Yes we may feel enraged and uncomfortable with certain topics, but these feelings are also indicative of room for growth. It’s uncomfortable at first to expand our ways of thinking, but discomfort may be necessary if we want to free ourselves from restrictive thought patterns and habits. If someone lashes out at you for questioning them, maybe it isn’t personal. It could possibly be their own special way of coping with change and breaking through their own barriers of thinking (I know this because I’ve definitely lashed out at certain situations prior to realizing the lesson I was facing).
When it comes down to it, all it takes is a willingness to transform our thoughts and reactions into constructive ones. Why do we face this “enemy” in our lives? And what is this “different” person trying to show me? Perhaps they just want to fight you (ha kidding..), or maybe they want to be heard the same way that we all want to be heard. Or who knows, perhaps this is an opportunity to fight the barriers within your own mind. Everyday events, however great or small, can bring us closer to a breakthrough–so break through. Break through your own barriers, break through limitations that you or “others” have placed on you, and free yourself. And once you’re free, work on freeing others. We’re in this together and I think it’s time we raise each other up instead of tearing each other down.